PSYCHOPATHS AND SPEECH HERE
One can tell who has been a genuine victim of a psychopathic abuse situation. You feel the intensity of their broken soul and it can bring you to tears just watching how these people look down when they talk, and their overall lack of energy. They are filled with a kind of paralysing heartbreak and muted deep trauma and are not obsessed with hatred and revenge. They won't spend their time on their alleged abuser's social networking page making fun of photos of the new life without them. They find it too painful to even look. The genuine victim won't transfer their own frustrations and unresolved pointless vendetta onto another useful target when their initial object of hate pays them no attention. The genuine victim wants to forget and just restore themselves and seek to understand this experience and what they can learn from it. Then, and only then, can meaningful recovery be attained.
In his books and lectures, Thomas Sheridan outlines - in layman and direct language - what the psychopathic personality is precisely, along with the effect these manipulative and cold blooded individuals have upon people and organisations which they decide to target for their own gain. His research takes an introductory approach into neuroscience, psychology and pathology to explain the nature and behaviour of psychopaths, also known as sociopaths (and often mistakenly misdiagnosed as narcissists) and how to recover from this often horrific emotional experience when a psychopath passes though a person's life.
“There is a huge misunderstanding concerning just exactly what a psychopath is within the mainstream. Most people think serial killer or axe murderer when they hear the term. The reality is, a psychopath – is a predatory individual who moves into another person's life and pretends to be someone they are not - so as to gain the trust of the target - in order to exploit them in some way. Most times it can be just for the sheer rush of enjoyment the psychopath gains for having fooled another human being and then casually walking away as if they never existed.”
“What makes a psychopath so very different from a typical womaniser, con artist or workplace bully is that they will undertake their exploitation of other people on an almost industrial scale and will remain like this for their entire lives. Using and discarding target after target without a care in the world.
People who have been targeted by a psychopath generally end up with Post Traumatic Stress Injury. This leaves them in no doubt that the individual that passed though their life was something very, very different in terms of the intensity of the experience. This is the unmistakable sign of someone who has been subjected to psychopathic abuse.”
“This is a hidden nightmare within society which is rarely talked about. People who have been targeted are as emotionally and psychologically distraught as rape victims, and yet they find it incredibly hard to get the information and resources they need to explain precisely what they went though.”
They prefer to be called "Narcissists" - as this makes these extremely toxic parasites appear as little more than misunderstood difficult geniuses or flighty Victorian dandies.
Let's make this perfectly clear...
CALLING A PSYCHOPATH A NARCISSIST IS AKIN TO CALLING A RAPIST A SELFISH LOVER.
Stop indulging them.
They also like to term themselves as being 'Sociopaths' (makes them seem like mavericks when they are completely enabler dependent) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are technical terms which tend to downplay the pathology. The psychopath is the ultimate energy vampire - they feed on your heart and soul and are driven by nothing other than power and control over others.
Psychopaths should only be considered in the context of a public health issue as they are more akin to a virus, vermin or the after-effects of an industrial accident and one should treat the psychopath as they would any biohazard. As this is what psychopaths are.
We do this via NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN.
Psychopaths glory in their pathology and see it as an advantage over others. They are the most destructive multi-cell parasitic organism on the planet. They enjoy leaving their targets with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as it feeds their god complex.This is why so many of them cluster into positions of power in media, politics and big business. These ones are the most dangerous types of all.
- Do you feel incomplete without a ‘soul mate’?
- Do you hide a sense of low self-esteem or hurt behind an outgoing and confident exterior due to a past emotional trauma that you keep to yourself?
- Do you believe that there is ‘someone special’ out there just for you and do you let people know what kind of person this would be?
- Do you believe in ‘love at first sight'?
- Do you have a large disposable income?
- Are you generally independent and self-supporting?
- Do you have any special talent or ability which may bring you fame and wealth one day?
- Do you think deeply about everyone and everything except yourself?
- Are you a single parent longing for a completed family?
- Are you the kind of person who would get out of your car to help an elderly or handicapped person with their groceries?
- Did you lose a young child, or are you presently estranged from your children due to divorce or do you have a deep-rooted unfulfilled desire to raise and nurture a child of your own?
- Do you always give other people the benefit of the doubt at first?
- Are you humbly unaware of your own special talents and abilities?
- Are you an educated recent immigrant with a degree or professional background and not yet fully aware of all the subtle cultural intricacies of your newly adopted country?
- Are you living alone in a house in which the mortgage is fully paid off?
- Do you have a strong desire to love and be loved?
- Do you have a history of rescuing stray and injured animals?
- Did you have a parent who was an alcoholic or a drug addict?
- Are you very sensitive to emotional external stimuli, such as hearing certain music, or viewing a certain art work which can bring you to tears?
- Were you in the military as a young person?
- Did one or both of your parents die when you were a child or were you raised in a foster home or orphanage?
- Were you abused, neglected, unloved by a parent/parents as a child?
- Are you financially responsible, solvent and secure, such as a stable employment position/regular long-term pay cheque with a government pension/full military pension?
- Do you believe there is a hidden force which affects your life to some degree and do you embrace this concept?
- Are you recently widowed, divorced or currently in a difficult relationship?
- When you are hurt emotionally, is it a deep, intense hurt?
DO NOT USE THE TERM "PSYCHOPATH" AS A COMPENSATORY LABEL TO SMEAR A PERSON WHO RIPPED YOU OFF OR BROKE YOUR HEART.
MANY PEOPLE ARE JUST EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE/SELF-ABSORBED THESE DAYS DUE TO THE IMPACT OF ADVERTISING AND MEDIA. THESE PEOPLE ARE GENERALLY JUST 'SELFISH, CLUELESS AND SHALLOW' AND ARE NOT SOCIOPATHS/PSYCHOPATHS.
The excellent Levenson Self-Report Psychopathy Scale can be useful in identifying people who may have these traits HERE. Answer the questions fairly if you are using it to evaluate someone else.
I have only personally known five people in my life whom I can consider to be psychopathic. Four of them were men I worked alongside with on Wall Street, and the other was a female rock 'groupie' I met when I was in my early 20's. Everyone else was just the normal range of humans from amazing to messed-up and everything in between.
EDUCATE YOURSELF - THINK RATIONALLY - BE AN ADULT.
Read books by the real experts first:
All other commentators, including myself are not experts. I am a layman and I wanted this information out of academia and open to all. However, question everything I say and ALWAYS look to the experts for the complete picture. Psychopatholgy is complex and changing study - with new discoveries and developments constantly taking place in the fields of neuro-science and biotechnology. The day is dawning fast when real treatment might be possible for psychopaths. Until then, our responsibility as empathic people is to keep ourselves safe and deal with the issue in an emotionally mature and non co-dependent manner.
A very good book on recognising possible psychopathic traits and behaviours in women is: Venus: The Dark Side by Mary T Cleary and Roy Sheppard HERE. Again, be fair and honest - a lot of younger women today have been damaged by mass media and fashion and may be acting out according to the appalling celeb role models presented to them on TV and in magazines.
ALWAYS BE CAUTIOUS, MEASURED AND MATURE ABOUT THE SITUATION. YOUR JOB IS TO LOOK AFTER YOURSELF AND BE VERY WARY OF ANYONE WHO TRIES TO COME BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR OWN PERSONAL RECOVERY STORY BY LOCKING YOU INTO ETERNAL RUMINATION, REVENGE FANTASY, HATRED AND SELF-PITY. YOU WILL END UP WASTING YOUR LIFE AND THE ABUSERS WILL HAVE WON.
THEN, IF YOU STILL BELIEVE YOU ARE/WERE DEALING WITH A PERSON WHO IS A PSYCHOPATH/SOCIOPATH, READ ON:
THE ONLY SOLUTION — NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN (NCEA)
The purpose of my work and lectures is to help people recover from the horrific emotional and psychological turmoil a psychopathic abuse situation may have brought into their lives. Then to understand and process the experience and move on. Revenge on the abuser is not possible, or healthy. Your job is to look after yourself. That's it.
Once you have HONESTLY and OBJECTIVELY identified and recognised that you are dealing with a psychopath/sociopath — be it in a relationship, in the workplace, within a committee/organisation, or indeed within your own family — you must walk away from them and leave them for good. Do not be concerned about hurting their feelings — a psychopath cannot be really ‘hurt’. You were never anything other than an object to them. NCEA is so empowering to the former target on so many levels that once established, they can utilise this fantastic tool of personal and emotional liberation without doing anything, as such. Therein lies the simple, but extremely effective beauty of the NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN rule. Do nothing, achieve everything. NCEA works with all toxic and difficult people/situations, not just the pathological ones. You only have one life and you must not waste it on people who just want to suck your energy dry.
The NCEA rule also includes blocking from your Twitter/Facebook accounts, instant messaging, phone numbers and all other personal access to you. It has nothing to do with being vindictive or spiteful. They don’t care.
Even though a normal person can't 'get even' with a psychopath and should never ever try to 'out-psychopath a psychopath', these pathological individuals hate the NCEA strategy because it puts them in the position of no longer having any control over their targets and no pernicious pathway back into their lives. The psychopath will most certainly have begun a vicious and ruthless smear campaign against you prior to them/you exiting your life (emotionally healthy, decent people do not engage in sadistic and on-going smear tactics). They will also attempt to take advantage of your implementing NCEA (out of annoyance and not hurt) and you’ll be placed in the awkward position of having to defend your humanity. DON'T DO THIS - STAY SILENT, AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
They are only testing and tugging at the ‘hook’ they have had in you. They do not miss you at all beyond needing to keep you well trained.
TOP TEN PROFESSIONS LIKELY TO APPEAL TO PSYCHOPATHS (link)
3. Media (Television/Radio)
7. Police Officer
8. Clergy person
10. Civil Servant
And the lowest rates of psychopathy:
1. Care Aide
6. Charity Worker
8. Creative Artist