DO NOT USE THE TERM "PSYCHOPATH" AS A COMPENSATORY LABEL TO SMEAR A PERSON WHO RIPPED YOU OFF OR BROKE YOUR HEART.
MANY PEOPLE ARE JUST EMOTIONALLY IMMATURE/SELF-ABSORBED THESE DAYS DUE TO THE IMPACT OF ADVERTISING AND MEDIA. THESE PEOPLE ARE GENERALLY JUST 'SELFISH, CLUELESS AND SHALLOW' AND ARE NOT SOCIOPATHS/PSYCHOPATHS.
The excellent Levenson Self-Report Psychopathy Scale can be useful in identifying people who may have these traits HERE. Answer the questions fairly if you are using it to evaluate someone else.
I have only personally known five people in my life whom I can consider to be psychopathic. Four of them were men I worked alongside with on Wall Street, and the other was a female rock 'groupie' I met when I was in my early 20's. Everyone else was just the normal range of humans from amazing to messed-up and everything in between.
EDUCATE YOURSELF - THINK RATIONALLY - BE AN ADULT.
Read books by the real experts first:
All other commentators, including myself are not experts. I am a layman and I wanted this information out of academia and open to all. However, question everything I say and ALWAYS look to the experts for the complete picture. Psychopatholgy is complex and changing study - with new discoveries and developments constantly taking place in the fields of neuro-science and biotechnology. The day is dawning fast when real treatment might be possible for psychopaths. Until then, our responsibility as empathic people is to keep ourselves safe and deal with the issue in an emotionally mature and non co-dependent manner.
A very good book on recognising possible psychopathic traits and behaviours in women is: Venus: The Dark Side by Mary T Cleary and Roy Sheppard HERE. Again, be fair and honest - a lot of younger women today have been damaged by mass media and fashion and may be acting out according to the appalling celeb role models presented to them on TV and in magazines.
ALWAYS BE CAUTIOUS, MEASURED AND MATURE ABOUT THE SITUATION. YOUR JOB IS TO LOOK AFTER YOURSELF AND BE VERY WARY OF ANYONE WHO TRIES TO COME BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR OWN PERSONAL RECOVERY STORY BY LOCKING YOU INTO ETERNAL RUMINATION, REVENGE FANTASY, HATRED AND SELF-PITY. YOU WILL END UP WASTING YOUR LIFE AND THE ABUSERS WILL HAVE WON.
THEN, IF YOU STILL BELIEVE YOU ARE/WERE DEALING WITH A PERSON WHO IS A PSYCHOPATH/SOCIOPATH, READ ON:
THE ONLY SOLUTION — NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN (NCEA)
The purpose of my work and lectures is to help people recover from the horrific emotional and psychological turmoil a psychopathic abuse situation may have brought into their lives. Then to understand and process the experience and move on. Revenge on the abuser is not possible, or healthy. Your job is to look after yourself. That's it.
Once you have HONESTLY and OBJECTIVELY identified and recognised that you are dealing with a psychopath/sociopath — be it in a relationship, in the workplace, within a committee/organisation, or indeed within your own family — you must walk away from them and leave them for good. Do not be concerned about hurting their feelings — a psychopath cannot be really ‘hurt’. You were never anything other than an object to them. NCEA is so empowering to the former target on so many levels that once established, they can utilise this fantastic tool of personal and emotional liberation without doing anything, as such. Therein lies the simple, but extremely effective beauty of the NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN rule. Do nothing, achieve everything. NCEA works with all toxic and difficult people/situations, not just the pathological ones. You only have one life and you must not waste it on people who just want to suck your energy dry.
The NCEA rule also includes blocking from your Twitter/Facebook accounts, instant messaging, phone numbers and all other personal access to you. It has nothing to do with being vindictive or spiteful. They don’t care.
Even though a normal person can't 'get even' with a psychopath and should never ever try to 'out-psychopath a psychopath', these pathological individuals hate the NCEA strategy because it puts them in the position of no longer having any control over their targets and no pernicious pathway back into their lives. The psychopath will most certainly have begun a vicious and ruthless smear campaign against you prior to them/you exiting your life (emotionally healthy, decent people do not engage in sadistic and on-going smear tactics). They will also attempt to take advantage of your implementing NCEA (out of annoyance and not hurt) and you’ll be placed in the awkward position of having to defend your humanity. DON'T DO THIS - STAY SILENT, AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
They are only testing and tugging at the ‘hook’ they have had in you. They do not miss you at all beyond needing to keep you well trained.
TOP TEN PROFESSIONS LIKELY TO APPEAL TO PSYCHOPATHS (link)
3. Media (Television/Radio)
7. Police Officer
8. Clergy person
10. Civil Servant
And the lowest rates of psychopathy:
1. Care Aide
6. Charity Worker
8. Creative Artist
- Do you feel incomplete without a ‘soul mate’?
- Do you hide a sense of low self-esteem or hurt behind an outgoing and confident exterior due to a past emotional trauma that you keep to yourself?
- Do you believe that there is ‘someone special’ out there just for you and do you let people know what kind of person this would be?
- Do you believe in ‘love at first sight'?
- Do you have a large disposable income?
- Are you generally independent and self-supporting?
- Do you have any special talent or ability which may bring you fame and wealth one day?
- Do you think deeply about everyone and everything except yourself?
- Are you a single parent longing for a completed family?
- Are you the kind of person who would get out of your car to help an elderly or handicapped person with their groceries?
- Did you lose a young child, or are you presently estranged from your children due to divorce or do you have a deep-rooted unfulfilled desire to raise and nurture a child of your own?
- Do you always give other people the benefit of the doubt at first?
- Are you humbly unaware of your own special talents and abilities?
- Are you an educated recent immigrant with a degree or professional background and not yet fully aware of all the subtle cultural intricacies of your newly adopted country?
- Are you living alone in a house in which the mortgage is fully paid off?
- Do you have a strong desire to love and be loved?
- Do you have a history of rescuing stray and injured animals?
- Did you have a parent who was an alcoholic or a drug addict?
- Are you very sensitive to emotional external stimuli, such as hearing certain music, or viewing a certain art work which can bring you to tears?
- Were you in the military as a young person?
- Did one or both of your parents die when you were a child or were you raised in a foster home or orphanage?
- Were you abused, neglected, unloved by a parent/parents as a child?
- Are you financially responsible, solvent and secure, such as a stable employment position/regular long-term pay cheque with a government pension/full military pension?
- Do you believe there is a hidden force which affects your life to some degree and do you embrace this concept?
- Are you recently widowed, divorced or currently in a difficult relationship?
- When you are hurt emotionally, is it a deep, intense hurt?
They prefer to be called "Narcissists" - as this makes these extremely toxic parasites appear as little more than misunderstood difficult geniuses or flighty Victorian dandies.
Let's make this perfectly clear...
CALLING A PSYCHOPATH A NARCISSIST IS AKIN TO CALLING A RAPIST A SELFISH LOVER.
Stop indulging them.
They also like to term themselves as being 'Sociopaths' (makes them seem like mavericks when they are completely enabler dependent) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are technical terms which tend to downplay the pathology. The psychopath is the ultimate energy vampire - they feed on your heart and soul and are driven by nothing other than power and control over others.
Psychopaths should only be considered in the context of a public health issue as they are more akin to a virus, vermin or the after-effects of an industrial accident and one should treat the psychopath as they would any biohazard. As this is what psychopaths are.
We do this via NO CONTACT EVER AGAIN.
Psychopaths glory in their pathology and see it as an advantage over others. They are the most destructive multi-cell parasitic organism on the planet. They enjoy leaving their targets with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) as it feeds their god complex.This is why so many of them cluster into positions of power in media, politics and big business. These ones are the most dangerous types of all.
PSYCHOPATHS AND SPEECH HERE
One can tell who has been a genuine victim of a psychopathic abuse situation. You feel the intensity of their broken soul and it can bring you to tears just watching how these people look down when they talk, and their overall lack of energy. They are filled with a kind of paralysing heartbreak and muted deep trauma and are not obsessed with hatred and revenge. They won't spend their time on their alleged abuser's social networking page making fun of photos of the new life without them. They find it too painful to even look. The genuine victim won't transfer their own frustrations and unresolved pointless vendetta onto another useful target when their initial object of hate pays them no attention. The genuine victim wants to forget and just restore themselves and seek to understand this experience and what they can learn from it. Then, and only then, can meaningful recovery be attained.
In his books and lectures, Thomas Sheridan outlines - in layman and direct language - what the psychopathic personality is precisely, along with the effect these manipulative and cold blooded individuals have upon people and organisations which they decide to target for their own gain. His research takes an introductory approach into neuroscience, psychology and pathology to explain the nature and behaviour of psychopaths, also known as sociopaths (and often mistakenly misdiagnosed as narcissists) and how to recover from this often horrific emotional experience when a psychopath passes though a person's life.
“There is a huge misunderstanding concerning just exactly what a psychopath is within the mainstream. Most people think serial killer or axe murderer when they hear the term. The reality is, a psychopath – is a predatory individual who moves into another person's life and pretends to be someone they are not - so as to gain the trust of the target - in order to exploit them in some way. Most times it can be just for the sheer rush of enjoyment the psychopath gains for having fooled another human being and then casually walking away as if they never existed.”
“What makes a psychopath so very different from a typical womaniser, con artist or workplace bully is that they will undertake their exploitation of other people on an almost industrial scale and will remain like this for their entire lives. Using and discarding target after target without a care in the world.
People who have been targeted by a psychopath generally end up with Post Traumatic Stress Injury. This leaves them in no doubt that the individual that passed though their life was something very, very different in terms of the intensity of the experience. This is the unmistakable sign of someone who has been subjected to psychopathic abuse.”
“This is a hidden nightmare within society which is rarely talked about. People who have been targeted are as emotionally and psychologically distraught as rape victims, and yet they find it incredibly hard to get the information and resources they need to explain precisely what they went though.”
This is the first resource you visit when looking for information on psychopaths: HERE Once you have absorbed Robert Hare's work, then begin to look at other aspects and information on the subject.
But only do this with objectivity and emotional neutrality. Just because the predatory capitalism currently running the planet appears psychopathic in nature - does not mean everyone behind this system are psychopaths. Some are, most are just playing the game.
AT LEAST 96-99% OF THE HUMAN RACE ARE POTENTIALLY YOUR FUTURE FRIENDS YOU HAVEN'T GOT TO KNOW YET.
Stay Positive - Look for the Good in Everyone - In Most People You Will Find it .
Segment of a talk given in Stavenger, Norway in September 2012 on the need to recover from a damaging relationship as soon as possible and not to dwell eternally on the experience. MORE...
An interview with Thomas Sheridan during a speaking tour of Norway in January 2013 in which he talks about his work in exploring the issue of psychopathology at the social and cultural level. Thomas also talks about his new book Anvil of the Psyche.
He will have signs around his home with slogans such as EVERYONE DESERVES A HAPPY CHILDHOOD and other trappings of Hallmark-style superficial chemical-bonding inducing tactics. She will be told how he needs taking care of and she'll gladly do it. He will be a child when he needs to be—so adorable and "what a gentle man in this day and age of horny brutes".
With a Teddy Bear in Hand, Trembling Bottom Lip and Finely-Tuned Passive Aggressive Neediness, Once in Control, the 'House-Devil-Street-Angel' Tyrant and Manipulator Arrives Centre Stage, and You'll Be Left Wondering Where 'Mr Gentle Soul' Went. MORE>>>
A genuine target won't post photos of their ex's erect phallus on their 'recovery and support' Facebook group. The will not expand witch hunts to include outing innocent by-standers on various message boards by revealing their real names to the world for not partaking in their own virtual, dysfunctional 'last chance saloon' passed off as a support group.
Only the unhinged—or perhaps psychopaths pretending to be victims—partake in such psychotic and dangerous episodes? A certain kind of toxic individual who uniquely starts and continues very personalised smear campaign, while also claiming they are somehow 'victims'—the psychopath, proto-psychopath and the psychotic are the only ones who do this—no one else sinks to that level. MORE>>>
"The very powerful and the very stupid have one thing in common. They don’t alter their views to fit the facts. They alter the facts to fit their views. Which can be uncomfortable if you happen to be one of the facts that needs altering."- Tom Baker aka Dr Who
Your inaction speaks louder than words when dealing with psychopaths and other collectives under the control of a pathological structure. They'll further expose themselves to the world with their smear campaigns. You must remain silent. Psychopaths have trouble putting the brakes on when they start attacking you. They are betting you'll sink to the same rathole level as them.
NEVER DO THIS.
The psychopaths want you to fight back as it creates confusion in the minds of neutral observers. If you keep your mouth shut, or better still, stay out of sight for a while they will provide others with all the proof they need that's it's not you who is what they are claiming you are - but them. Keep your mouth shut and let them show the world their true nature.
They will just go lower and more vicious until they are advertising their own dysfunctional state to every neutral observer. Your job is to assist them in their public self-destruction with NCEA. Psychopaths are not aware that healthy and socially adjusted people view smear campaigns with suspicion. Because a psychopath has no decency, they make the fatal mistake of thinking this is how others behave. Hysterical and unstable types might fall for the smear campaign initially - but these types tend to lose interest and get bored. Everyone else, after their initial confusion, eventually comes to see that the socially abnormal vindictiveness, hysteria and paranioa is only coming from the pathological side. Decent and intelligent people will be able to see the truth more clearly if you remain silent and the psychopaths/unstable types are doing all the smearing.
Do not feed their pathology. Starve it with silence. Expose it with apathy.
No matter what, you will never get a genuine psychopath to say 'sorry' directly to the person they damaged, ever. They will go to absolutely extraordinary lengths to not give an apology. They are hard-wired not to do it. They literally can't issue an apology. You might get. "sorry you are upset" or "sorry you are feeling this way." - these are not apologies. These diversions are putting the problem back onto you.
The reason for this is the psychopath's persona-switching. The present version of the psychopath is not accountable for the current persona. It's not capable of saying sorry, as the old version of the psychopath is the one is (technically, at the very most) responsible and not the one presently inside the psychopath whom you are looking for an apology, remorse, understanding, culpability from. Will never, ever happen. Never. You are asking for a shark to go vegetarian and expecting it. Don't waste your energy trying - move on with you life and be glad they are out of it forever.
Which is why Governments, Organised Religions and Banks function without remorse or common decency. It's never their fault. It's always the fault of the ones they target and the targets are always the ones who are made to pay for the evils of the psychopaths and the psychopathic institutions.
- IMPORTANT NOTICE -
You must be adult/mature and show common decency before declaring someone to be a psychopathic individual.
There are a few internet forums and other websites which are run and moderated by hysterical and histrionic individuals which are little more than ex-Spouses and Lovers clubs declaring their ex's to be 'psychopaths' so they do not have to face their own issues in life, or in a few cases, deal with their own glaringly obvious personality disorders which the self-proclaimed 'victim' themselves may in fact possess: Erotomaina, Histrionic Personality Disorder and old fashion infantile petty jealousies and sexual frustrations/hang-ups.
A psychopath is someone who is very much more than an individual who is having sex with another person who isn't you. Please bear this in mind. Life is complicated and can't be put into child-like “my ex is a psychopath because he dumped me!” rationalisations. Most times you are dealing with a creep or just an emotionally immature person. Other times it may even be your own co-dependency which is the issue, and you and you alone needs to work on this. Sometimes they left you for a good reason. You were not the person they wanted nor desired anymore. As hard as this is to face, good people do this to their partners and spouses all the time. This does not make these people 'psychopaths' nor 'sociopaths' and by declaring them so, you will never find any inner peace or resolution.
Being self-reflective of your own life is just about the most healthy and self-empowering thing one can do. Fobbing this off on another human being who has long forgotten you and moved on with their life by calling them a 'psychopath', sociopath', narc', so you do not have to look yourself in the mirror, will only end in your own psychic implosion and social isolation. Along with a wasted and unproductive life of self-absorption within your own “me, me, me!!!” victim complex narcissism.
Having said this, there are also many very real and sincere targets of the most horrific and traumatic psychopathic mind control and abuse. Be they in relationships, subjected to bullying at work, crazy business partners, flying saucer clubs/fringe churches, and even among their own family members. There is only one site people should look to for help and that is Robert Hare's Aftermath. It's the only resource that can be trusted, and operated by the top professionals in the field. What more do you need? Stay away from groups which are constantly looking for donations, or loaded with high drama and schmaltz rides into self-pity, rather than mature discussion.
If you experienced the following behaviour while in a relationship, or working with this person—then you probably knew a psychopath:
Invented Personas to Manipulate Others
Psychopaths are a different version of themselves for every person they interact with. They also have ‘group personas’ for family, organisational and workplace interaction.
Highly Unreliable/Broken Promises
Psychopaths will make the most incredibly ambitious plans including you as their right hand man or woman—then, on a whim, discard those plans and move on to some other crusade that excludes you. Targets often alter their own life plans to help the psychopath reach their imaginary goals, resulting in appalling emotional, psychological and financial chaos for the victims when the psychopath moves on.
Idealisation Followed by Cold Rejection
At the height of their idealisation of you, the psychopath will show you obsessive ‘love,’ care and attention. However, once they feel they have you where they want you—or the relationship has ended—if you collapsed in front of them on the street they would simply step over you as if they’d never met you and continue on their way. Outrageous and very personal smear campaigns against the discarded targets to falsely portray them as psychologically unstable, self-serving liars or abusers are often undertaken by psychopaths following the ending of a relationship.
Becomes Obsessed with a Hobby, Cause, or Individual and then Loses Interest Instantly
However, as soon as the relationship is established, the downward trajectory from idealisation of their targets and towards the inevitable devaluation and discarding begins in earnest. It may take weeks. It may take months. It often takes years. Nevertheless the psychopath always begins the devaluing of their victims as soon as the relationship is legitimised and is always on the lookout for an ‘upgrade’.
Buys into either secular and non-secular belief systems to appear superior or enlightened. Will align themselves with ‘morally popular’ causes to make themselves appear enlightened and with a sense of deep moral wisdom and compassion. But it is always a pose; the psychopath’s association with these causes is a veneer to fool others into trusting them. It’s always fake; always an agenda.
There is Nothing Real Behind the Persona
Behind the months or years of perfectly-constructed performance by your psychopath is a nothing: a void, a blank, a hunger for something the psychopathic entity can never define. They now see no further benefit in playing this part and have moved on to a new role. It is just business. You are treated to a completely new, cold and emotionless persona. “Who is this stranger?” you will ask yourself over and over again. It is so bewildering.
The Sudden Goodbye
Then the psychopath finds an upgrade, changes their persona, will often change their look, fashions and even change the subject when they suspect others are figuring them out and you begin asking questions. "Hey, never mind that, it is lovely weather we are having!" Stated in a chipper and almost giddy manner (with an obvious underlying glibness). They are repressing the internal excitement at having pulled a fast one on you.
RED FLAGS AND TRAITS TO LOOK OUT FOR
Before we move on to learn how to identify an individual who may be a psychopath, I want to stress this clearly, emphatically and unequivocally—that one should not declare a person to be 'a psychopath' unless you are completely sure you have fairly and honestly evaluated that individual with as much emotional neutrality as possible. To use the label 'psychopath' is essentially to state that this individual is not a human being. Such a statement—no matter how much someone may have wronged you—must not be taken lightly.
The pathological drive of any psychopath over the course of his or her life can be anything and everything selfish, appalling, immoral and evil one can think of. However, there are Five Absolute Traits which all psychopaths (both male and female) have, and this is what you should be on the lookout for if you think you are in a relationship with a psychopath or if you have questions about an individual whom you may have come into contact with in the past who may have been a psychopath.
THE FIVE ABSOLUTE PSYCHOPATHIC TRAITS
(lacks conscience—shows no genuine guilt for their actions)
Invoking Pity in Others to Manipulate and Control
(sob stories of past sexual/other abuse—claims nearly all their ex's are insane/alcoholics)
Mysterious Pasts/Vague Personal Histories
(life story never seems to make sense—contradictory pasts—missing periods in their lives)
(an actor who'll play the role 'you' require from them—until they change the performance/role as they learn a new script)
High Levels of the Hormone Testosterone
(impulsive—sexually intense—upper body strength—poor
RELATIVE SECONDARY PSYCHOPATHIC TRAITS
There is also a cluster of potential Secondary or Relative Traits which are often present in psychopaths. Understanding and applying these will go a long way to help you distinguish between psychopaths and everyday, run-of-the-mill obnoxious creeps and charlatans. With Secondary Relative Psychopathic Traits, not every psychopath will have all of them. Some will have most, or nearly all of them—most psychopaths can demonstrate these traits at different stages over the course of their lives.
Sexual Promiscuity/Asexuality/One Night Stands
(appears to have learned all they know about sex from watching pornography)
Staggering Levels of Double Standards and Hypocrisy/Projection
(projects their own faults onto others—accuses the target of doing to the psychopath what the psychopath is doing to them) NEVER SAYS 'SORRY'.
Narcissism/Boastfulness and a Sense of Being Born for a Special Purpose
(expects to be praised constantly and will praise themselves if they do not get it from others)
History of Brief or Failed Relationships Ending Badly
(gets engaged/married on impulse—always blames the other person for the relationship failing—if relationship is long-term, this means they have the perfect enabler)
Fight or Flight Response
(poor stress tolerance—can't debate—insults and lashes out)
(sneers, poses or smirks or 'looks away' when being photographed)
Eyes Sometimes Dead and Lifeless
(coupled with a hypnotic stare—eyes can also dart around from left to right when scheming) Very often a disturbing intense predatory stare when challenged or refused a request.
Needing, at Most, 4—5 Hours of Sleep at Night
(sleeping aids, prescriptions and alcohol used to extend their sleeping periods or to avoid boredom)
Faking Cancer or Other Serious Illness
(shaving their heads, eyebrows and body hair to fool people—will set up charities and fund-raising events—harvesting pity—looking for heroic recognition)
Does not Dream, or Fabricates Unrealistic Dream Stories
(reduced complex cognitive processes in and around the frontal areas of the brain)
Constantly Looking and Acting Busy for no Apparent Reason
(moving around, traveling here and there for no apparent reason—busy, busy, busy)
Leaves their Target Abandoned and Alone for Hours on End
(will bring target to a party in a room full of strangers and then leave them on their own)
Highly Unreliable/Broken Promises
(makes highly ambitious plans, then changes them—makes promises and never follows through)
Constantly Trying to Correct Others’ Opinions
(font of all knowledge—arrogant 'know it all'—always has to have the last word, usually an insult. VERY passive aggressive.)
Crocodile Tears and Unconvincing Emotional Responses, Superficial Laughter
('Gentle Soul' personal with ham acting—pretending to wipe/dry their eyes—rooted in frustration, not sorrow)
Extreme and Obvious Flattery, Emulating and Sycophantic Behaviour
(when targeting/scheming: whatever they think you want to hear and see, they will say and do it)
(releases large amounts of dopamine and norepinephrine, while reducing serotonin within the target's brain)
(overly complex speech and writing in order to look clever—often makes no sense—contradictory from one sentence to the next)
Claims to be the Only Person who Really Relates to Target
(in order to begin socially isolating them from their support network of family/friends)
Sets the Agenda—Never Meets Anyone Halfway
(announces, never discusses—gives orders, never asks—dictates, both overtly and subtly)
Obsessed with the Latest Pharmaceuticals/ Hypochondriac
(can include healthy eating obsessions which never last)
Has no Real Creative Talent
(can only copy—can’t innovate or be original)
(when in a long-term relationship, working with or living with, will drain the life energy out of you—long-term partners age faster and develop serious health issues.)
Claims to be Independent/Maverick
(but in reality is completely dependent on enablers to supply him/her with basic living needs)
(excellent at reading people and social situations in order to exploit them—finding and using emotional 'triggers')
Easily Takes Offence
(will often harbour a grudge for years and then produce it out of the blue in order to confuse the target, often as a deflective tactic during an argument)
Gifts Designed to ‘Buy You’ or to Mould You in a Certain Way
(their own personal taste in clothes—will use gifts to 'improve' you)
Can't Handle Criticism
(becomes highly defensive when confronted with their own behaviour—they are perfect)
(cured with con-artistry, promiscuity, alcoholism and/or drug abuse to alleviate the boredom)
Does Not 'Get' Clever Satire/Complex Humour
Laughs when they see other laugh. Child-like sense of humour at best.
(lies instinctually, even when telling the truth would be the better option—can't accept blame—will say 'sorry' that the target is hurt, but not actually be sorry for hurting them)
Feels They are Entitled to the Best of Everything and Expects to be Indulged
(only says 'thank you' to make a good impression on potential targets—soon afterwards stops and complains they are not being indulged or waited upon quick enough)
Exploits Friends, Parents, the Elderly or Handicapped
(money, free rent, altering of wills)
Claims to have a Special Relationship with God (Spiritual Narcissism) or Extreme Atheist
(both are just belief packages the psychopath will use to impress others)
Claims to be a Spy, Assassin, Special Forces Personnel or other Clandestine Agent
(will collect military and other similar memorabilia—fake medals and combat awards)
Twists Conversations and Meanings of Things to Suit Agenda
(diverts conversation to gain moral or intellectual higher ground—when stumped, changes the subject or gets angry)
Uses Dysfluencies More than Most (i.e., 'umms', 'ahhs', etc)
(does not listen to what others say after the Idealisaton stage because the psychopath does not care)
For a More Complete Understanding of the Issue from the Viewpoint of Dealing with, and Recovering from a Psychopathic Abuse Situation, along with a Basic Introductory Understanding of the Impact of Psychopathology on Individuals and Society; Please See My Books: Puzzling People and Defeated Demons.
This is a meme that was made for me by a friend concerning the Reptilian Complex (R-Complex) which leads to the excitable giddiness and arrogance when a psychopath pulls off "a win".
If you are a nice person you are more of a target—they will often remark how kind and nice you are. This makes you easy prey. You will also find that the early sweet loving kindness performance of the psychopath will be interrupted now and again with a nasty and mean performance.
Then a cycle develops where the frequencies of the nasty state increases—while the kindness state become less and less. Eventually, from the height of loving, idealisation and adoration the psychopath obsessively showered you with in the early days—you will find yourself trapped in a negative lifestyle.
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN FEMALE/HOMOSEXUAL PSYCHOPATHS AND 'HETEROSEXUAL' MALE PSYCHOPATH SMEAR CAMPAIGNS
In the case of the female and homosexual psychopaths 'it' will spread hysterical, negative and false rumours about you to their social circle, friends, social networking sites and internet forums while garnishing sympathy from their clueless on-tap, plethora of pity enablers who believe every negative statement about you which the histrionic predator tells them.
Grey areas, restraint and common decency simply do not exist and often it's a dead giveaway. The psychopath simply can't put the brakes on once the R-Complex takes full control. If this is done on-line, then the homosexual or female psychopath will recruit mobbing 'help' from others to join their vicious, high-drama charade in order to back up the initial lies told about the target.
Psychopaths pile lie upon lie to make the previous lie 'the truth'. It creates confusion and shock in neutral observers. Female psychopaths consider kindness in hetrosexual males to be a personality disorder.
Male (outwardly heterosexual*) psychopaths tend to just forget their previous target ever existed and then completely reinvent themselves. Very often, not a single friend from their previous persona will be retained. Very similar to how a reptile sheds its skin for a new one. The similarities are incredible between psychopaths and reptiles.
NOTE: Heterosexuality is provisional in all male psychopaths
BI-SEXUALITY AND HOMOSEXUALITY IS NOT PROOF SOMEONE IS A PSYCHOPATH